Are You Masturbating Incorrectly?
Your preferred technique could be affecting your sex life
Your masturbation technique might feel comfortable for you, and you may get accustomed to it. However, this favorite technique can become an issue during intercourse.
You may be so used to a specific method of masturbating that if your partner doesn't stimulate you in the same way during sex, it might be difficult for you to orgasm. This could lead to delayed ejaculation or erectile dysfunction.
We refer to this as peculiar or traumatic masturbation.
What is Peculiar Masturbation?
Peculiar masturbation can be defined as a self-pleasure method that’s difficult to replicate during partner sex.
The pressure, slipperiness, rhythm, and which areas of the penis are more stimulated are all determined by personal preference during masturbation.
Think about how you first discovered masturbation. For instance, you might have realized that lying face down and rubbing your penis against your bed feels really good.
However, once you become accustomed to this specific sensation, you may not feel the same level of pleasure with your partner, potentially leading to sexual compatibility issues later on.
How Peculiar Masturbation Can Affect Your Sex Life
- Delayed ejaculation is the most common issue.
- Difficulty enjoying sex.
- Misconceptions about the partner, such as thinking the vagina is too wide.
- A desire for anal intercourse due to the perception that the vagina is too wide.
- Loss of erection and reduced penile sensitivity due to less stimulation during vaginal intercourse.
All of this can make you feel frustrated or disappointed.
What Can You Do About Unhelpful Masturbation Techniques?
If you have a specific masturbation style and it’s not working well during sex,
If consulting a specialist is not an option, take a break from both masturbation and sex. This can help you alleviate stress.
Forgetting certain habits is actually a protective mechanism for your mental and emotional well-being.
So, how long should you wait? It varies from person to person. A period of around three months is often enough if no other issues are present.
If you communicate with your partner about the easiest ways to get pleasure during sex, it may help improve sexual compatibility.
When should you consult a urologist?
If months have passed and there’s no improvement, it’s time to consult a specialist. Ideally, it’s best to seek help as soon as you notice a problem, since sexual issues tend to worsen if left unaddressed and may lead to other complications.
A specialist can help identify problems you may not be aware of or have difficulty expressing to your partner. Improving communication as a couple can enhance your sexual knowledge and connection.
The most important thing is that both partners address the problem together. When this happens, issues can be resolved.
